Offer a gift of comfort and beauty to a family suffering from loss.
It is not always possible to pay respects in person, so we hope that this small token will help.
It is helpful to plan ahead. Know what your loved one's wishes are so that they are respected. Making funeral arrangements in advance reduces the number of decisions that will need to be made right at the time of death. It also provides an opportunity to talk about arrangements, concerns and feelings.
Sit with the dying person; hold his/her hand. Reassure the person with a reminder that you are there. Do not speak about your loved one as though he/she isn't there. Hearing remains until the moment of death.
Identify your self by name. Speak softly, clearly and truthfully when you need to communicate.
Talk to him/her while giving care and explain what you are doing.
Sitting quietly at the bedside, playing soothing music or reading something comforting may achieve a calming effect.
Normal family routines may be disrupted and you may feel you have lost your ability to concentrate on anything, You may wish sometimes for things to be over because of the uncertainty, helplessness, emotional and physical exhaustion you may be experiencing.
Feelings such as guilt, anger, frustration or sadness are common among people who are supporting a person during a terminal illness
Tears are a natural expression of one's feelings. Some may internalize their feelings and may not be able to cry. Both reactions are normal.
Good byes are appropriate. Both the family and the person dying may find comfort in this process of "letting go."
During this time a member of the clergy, chaplain or a spiritual adviser can provide support and comfort to both the family and the person dying. Certain religions have rites or sacraments that may be desired by the client or family at this time.
Someone You Love is Dying
Although it is impossible to totally prepare for a death, a death may be made easier if you know what to expect.
Who to Call First?
When someone dies you will need to notify family, friends and clergy. It may be easier on you to make a few phone calls to other relatives or friends and ask each of them to make a phone call or two to specific people. Whatever the circumstances of death, one of your first calls should be to a licensed funeral director. We are here to help you.
Although it may be difficult, telling others of a death is therapeutic.
Organ and Tissue Donation
In a time of extreme stress and grief, a signed donor card and knowledge of the individual's wishes will help families make their decision about donation.
Writing an Obituary
More than merely a "good-bye" to the deceased, this is a farewell which can, in chronological order, detail the life of the deceased.
Writing and delivering a eulogy is a noble gesture that is worthy of thought and effort. It is an opportunity to make a contribution to a memorial service, a contribution that your friends and family will remember for a long time.